Why Men Marry Bitches!

You've heard that nice guys finish last, but what about nice girls? In this excerpt from her book Why Men Marry Bitches, author Sherry Argov reveals why men actually prefer a confident, secure woman (Argov's definition of the word bitch) to one who lets her man take the reins in a relationship. She surveyed real men, who spilled exactly what makes or breaks their opinion of the women they meet — and it turns out that having your own life, making your own plans and not letting him win all the time only makes you more attractive. So who says being a "bitch" is a bad thing? Not these guys! Here's what they had to say:


1."The worst thing a woman can do is see a guy every night of the week. That's how she becomes his good-time girl on his 'reserve list.' What will happen is, the guy will start coming over at nine o'clock and then he'll leave by ten-thirty. If he gets access or what he wants from her anytime he wants it, he won't have to lift a finger to keep it going."

2."Men are competitive. When he buys a car that is a limited-edition model, he feels like he has something special. Guys in the street who race cars usually race for pink slips, because they want to win, conquer and take the other vehicle. That carries over to women. A woman who is easy won't scratch his competitive itch. When she stops expressing her opinion and starts agreeing with everything he says, that's usually when a man starts to feel bored."

3."A woman should never go looking for him or chase him down at three different places where he said he might be having a drink. If he says, 'Either I'll be at the Cheesecake Factory or some bar on 26th,' don't try to track him down. If you want to be his 'steady,' let him come track you down."


4."My fiancée was the first woman to put me in my place. She constantly reminds me, 'Hey, nobody's forcing you to stay.' If I tried to BS my way out of a situation, she'd say, 'Let me save you the time and energy. Don't give me that s**t, because I ain't buying it.' I know if she caught me cheating she'd smack me over the head with a frying pan. And I respect her more than any woman I've ever known."

5."If he can sum you up in one sentence, he'll be bored."

6."Confidence is when you don't try to interpret or overly process everything that you are observing out loud. It prevents the relationship from progressing on a normal course. For example, every time I gave this woman flowers, she would remind me that her ex stopped bringing her flowers. What she really wanted to ask was whether I'd keep doing it in the future. That made me feel like she didn't really enjoy the flowers or appreciate the present moment with me."

7."A woman shouldn't say, 'You don't call me enough,' or, 'You never tell me you love me.' As a woman, your best asset is to be unpredictable. He should never be able to figure you out. When he can always predict what you are going to do next, you've lost him as a long-term partner. He'll look for someone else whom he can't understand or control."

8."If she feels strongly about something, she'll have a backbone. This woman is the woman he respects. Not a 'melba toast' cracker that crumbles with very little pressure."

9."You have to seem like you aren't giving yourself fully. 'Here I am. Take me.' Men want to be kept guessing. Think about it. When a guy picks out a movie, he wants to be on the edge of his seat from the very beginning. If someone doesn't lose a limb or get shot and buildings aren't blown up all within the first 20 minutes, he'll think he got cheated out of 20 bucks."

10."A woman shouldn't even crack a joke about marriage. I was on a second date with a girl, and we are both from Ireland. Back home we have a saying, 'If you kiss me you are going to have to marry me.' If you have the desire to get married, never let a man know that up front. If you do, it's the same as handing him a manual and telling him exactly how to dangle a carrot and play on your weaknesses."



Why Men Marry Bitches: Our Brady Bunch Case Study Explains it All for You

After much research, The Trap Him Gals have the answer you've been waiting for. Consider that men marry bitches because bitchy (else wise known as driven) women help (or force) men to reach their full potential. Let's use the Brady Bunch to illustrate:

For instance, Carol Brady was always loving and sweet to Mike. She never challenged him to do more with his life which is why Mike never did venture out and start his own architectural firm. No, Mike was destined to always work for someone else. We are not suggesting that this is Carol's fault. We are merely pointing out that Mike may have gone farther in his career had he had married a bitch instead of the mother of three golden-haired girls.

On the same front, Alice may have gotten Sam the butcher to marry her on schedule had she only channeled her inner bitch instead of being so helpful and subservient all the time.

Another reason why men marry bitches is because bitchy (but let's think of them as driven) women tend to get things done. Some women complain about circumstances that aren't ideal and then they whine and complain. In short, it's easy to be a victim of circumstance. Bitchy women, on the other hand, acknowledge what is causing their discontent and then they can be counted on to fix the problem.

Men want a partner willing to participate equally in a relationship. And this, Dear Reader, is why men marry bitches. So don't be afraid to let your inner bitch loose once in a while. You may be surprised at how effective she is and how much happier you are as a result. Bonus, in moderation a little bitchiness won't hurt your love life. Besides, it'll keep him on his toes and ought to keep him from stepping on yours!