Friday, August 31, 2012

8 Warning Signs That He Is Just Using You …

Some signs he is using you can be right out in the open, but you might not know it! If you have a feeling that he is using you, it might not be a healthy relationship to be in. Below, I’ve got the top 8 signs he is using you for your money, for sex or even just for a place to crash. Ladies, you deserve better than just someone using you!

1. You Pay Every Time You Go Out

Even though the guy is supposed to pay, you constantly find yourself paying for every single thing when you two go out. Does that seem to be the case with your relationship? That’s definitely one of the top signs he is using you. While it’s okay to split the bill, you shouldn’t constantly be pulling your wallet out to pay.

2. He’s Only Available When He Needs Something from You

What about his availability? Do you constantly find that he isn’t available unless he needs something from you? This is definitely a sign he is using you girls. After all, don’t you want a guy that is going to be available when you need him to? Not just when he needs you?

3. Financially Dependent on You

Not only do you pay for everything, but he is actually financially dependent on you. He expects you to pay all of the bills that you two have, no questions asked. He doesn’t even contribute to the monthly bills that he has racked up with you. This is a sign he is using you girls and you shouldn’t stand for it!

4. You Are His Convenience

Are you constantly finding yourself his convenience for a ride or for an ‘allowance’? That should never be the case when you are in a mature relationship ladies! Everything should be even, you should never be someones ‘convenience’.

5. Emotional Blackmail

Is your boyfriend constantly blaming you for things that go wrong in his life? Does he constantly say that it is your fault that he doesn’t have a job or any direction? This is a sign that he is using you girls and you shouldn’t stand for it!

6. He Never Buys You Anything

Do you constantly buy him things, but he’s never, ever gotten you something back? Does he eve buy you anything? That’s a sign ladies. After all, shouldn’t your boyfriend buy you some things sometimes?

7. He Doesn’t Need You for Anything but Things That He Needs

Does your boyfriend not take into account your needs? Maybe it’d be nice once in a while for him to pick you up, instead of you constantly picking him up. Does he not take any of your needs into account when he makes decisions? It’s a sign girls.

8. He Never Takes Your Feelings into Consideration

Finally, does your boyfriend take any of your feelings into account? Does he even think about how his actions affect you? This could be a sign he is using you ladies!

Ladies, if you see any of these signs he is using you, it isn’t a healthy relationship. So girls, have you ever been in a relationship that had any of these signs he is using you?

Tuesday, May 22, 2012


Dating a co-worker can be really fun but also super dangerous. There are company policies to think about, the way your other colleagues are going to think about – there are just a lot of factors to consider! If you have a serious crush on one of your co-workers, don’t worry ladies, I’ve got the top 7 tips and tricks for dating a co-worker! Remember though, when you are dating a co-worker it can be really hard if you two break up!

When you go about dating a co-worker, you want to make sure that you are not going to be putting your career in jeopardy by violating company policies. If you are dating a co-worker and violating the company polices, make sure that it is worth it. Is this person the ‘one’ for you? Do you have an instant connection? Is he marriage material? Below, we’ll explore some ways that you can keep your relationship discreet so maybe, nobody will know you are dating!

Above I mentioned that you don’t want to violate a company policy; however, if you have a really strong feeling about someone, there are ways that you can keep your relationship a secret. Make sure that you don’t provide favoritism. Also make sure that you aren’t constantly swinging by your new boyfriend’s desk that could tip people off that you are dating!

While we all want to life like Sandra Bullock in The Proposal, it’s really not a great idea to date your subordinate. The reasoning behind this is because it could be the one thing that breaks you up. Ladies, if you are going to go about dating your co-worker, make sure it isn’t someone that is under you!

In my office, we actually a bunch of different ‘pods’ is what we call them. These are in essence, different departments. Trust me; it’s much easier to date a co-worker when they aren’t in the same department as you!

Whenever you are dating a co-worker, make sure that you are avoiding any and all PDAs, especially around the office. This can actually put your career at risk and can actually cause a lot of tension within the office. If you’re going to date someone that you work with, save the PDAs until you are out of the office.

This goes hand-in-hand with the PDAs rule. When you are fighting with your spouse, remember – don’t take it out at him at work! When you are at work, you want to leave all of your personal business behind and make sure that you are professional and civil at work.

Finally, if you are dating a co-worker, make sure that you have some kind of exit strategy. What this means is that if you do happen to break up, what are you going to do? How are you going to handle it? Be prepared!

Dating a co-worker is hard stuff, but you really can’t control who you are attracted to. So ladies, have you ever considered dating a co-worker? Have any stories for us?

Monday, May 7, 2012


Typically, a confident guy is more than willing to share all kinds of information about themselves. Everything from their past, present and where they want to go in the future. When you are looking to date a shy guy, they are more prone to not be as forthcoming. That means that you’ll have work a little harder in order to get some information out of him.

Now, I love a guy that is really confident about himself, but they can also seem really insincere sometimes can’t they? Well ladies, typically with a shy guy, they are more sincere, they think more about their words and they just really want to please you.

A really confident guy can be so intimidating because he typically surrounds himself with all kinds of girls and that alone can be intimidating. When you are trying to date a shy guy, they typically are less intimidating, less likely to reject you. Try approaching a shy guy ladies!

I am not saying that all confident guys are inconsiderate, but when it comes to a shy guy, they are typically some of the most considerate guys out there. Like I said before, they think about their words and truly think about what you’re feeling. One of the perks of dating a shy guy is that they want to know you inside as well as the beauty on the outside!

Any guy in the world can cheat on you, any guy in the world can get those urges, but with a shy guy, they are typically less likely to cheat on you, as most girls overlook them. I actually love shy guys, I think that they are so nice, so sweet and are absolutely one of the best types of guys out there!

I love a guy that can talk, but sometimes it’s nice to have a guy that is on even keel with the conversation instead of trying to dominate it. Typically, when you date a shy guy, you’ll be able to ask some questions and even get asked some questions, because they want to find out all kinds of information about you.

As I said before, when you are dating a shy guy, you won’t have to worry about them dominating the conversation, but you also can know that they are really listening to you and really filing away everything that you are saying. Honestly ladies, how often do you talk to a guy and not really know if he is listening to you at all? Probably often right?

I actually love this trait about shy guys, the fact that they can blush so, so easily. Compliment him? You’ll probably end up making him a little red-cheeked! How sweet is that?
Just because a guy is really shy doesn’t mean that you should just overlook him. Ladies, these are just a few of the many reasons to seek out and date a shy guy. Do you ladies have any experiences dating a shy guy? Share ‘em!

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

11 Things Men Like in Women More Than Good Looks …

Things Men Like in Women often have nothing to do with Looks, bra size or any of the standard things we think men fall for. In fact, although physical appearance is the first thing they notice (don’t we all?), when it comes to settling down it often comes in last and counts the least. Believe it or not, there are at least 12 completely non-physical things men like in women and I’m pretty sure your boyfriend could list many more and confirm that your gorgeous physique, beautiful eyes and soft lips are not the only things that made him fall head over heels for you! Interested to learn more about those other things men like in women? Well, read carefully because every man would love to be with a woman who is…

1. A Good Listener

Most men appreciate women who are able to just listen – no “ I told you so” lines, no lectures, tips or comments regarding what you would do if you were in his place. You know… just sitting, listening (and I mean REALLY listening)… just showing that you care. Oh, and that involves being patient as well, understanding that most men need to “process” their problems before they can talk about them and learning to say, “Okay, baby, whenever you want to talk about it – I’m here for you”.

2. Spontaneous

Being able to “go with the flow” is one of the things men like in women the most and I must admit I’m still not as nearly as spontaneous as my fianc? would like me to be although I’m working on it. Most of our men would never sing in front of us (professional singers excluded) but they just love to hear us sing ( even if it sounds more like howling), they love to see us dance around the house, they will gladly throw us a surprise if they know the reaction would be positive and they love to see us being us (even if it involves a certain dose of silliness).

3. Accomplished And Fulfilled

Women who actually enjoy the things they do are more attractive, which means you should definitely stop whining about the things you DON’T have and start enjoying the things you DO! It’s not about being extremely beautiful, having a good job, an impressive resume or whatnot – it’s about you being happy for who you are as a person, it’s about being positive, about knowing that you’re a great woman who deserves great things. And, believe me, it’s true that bad luck never travels alone, but the same can be said for good luck as well.

4. Able to Enjoy Her Food

Eating healthy food and trying to cut down on unnecessary calories is one thing, obsessively counting them is something completely different and, while this first thing is actually good for you, the second one won’t really impress him. Being able to go out to a restaurant or a pizza place, to relax, to have a good time and talk about your food in terms of how good it tastes instead of how fat it’s going to make you shows that you’re confident… and we already know confidence is one of the things Men (real men) like in women – don’t we?

5. A Good Cook

Our grandmas used to say that the only way to get to a man’s heart is through his stomach – remember that one? Well, we did learn by now that’s not the only way although it certainly is one of the ways and, if I may add, a very good one. Men love women who can cook and women who would be willing to learn to cook for them. That’s when that traditional part of the brain turns on to note the woman in question would be a good wife. It’s a clich?, I know, but even experts agree on this one!

6. Real

Although fake girls with their fake this, that and everything turn a lot of heads and probably get a lot of free drinks, most men have agreed they could never choose a girl like that for something more than just a casual romance. Whoa! What a coincidence – we feel the same way about fake guys! LOL! Which leads us back to that ideal, fun loving, girl next door all guys love– a girl that likes to smile and doesn’t care what others think of her smile (thin lips, teeth or whatever), a girl that can tell a joke, a girl that doesn’t use “words” like O.M.G or T.T.Y.L, a girl that won’t have a nervous breakdown every time her mascara starts running… a REAL girl!

7. Ready to Compromise

Every man feels better when he knows his lady is ready to negotiate and work hard to find a solution that will be acceptable for both sides so hope you’re ready to compromise girls, because, although guys like boobs and long legs, they all agree this non-physical quality is far more important.

8. Caring

He really wants to know that you care for him but, be careful, because repeating “I love you” until he can’t take it anymore isn’t a good way to let him know how you feel. An average man will tell you that he loves you once and show you how much he loves you five times. You should do the same. Baby him when he’s sick or tired, surprise him every once in a while, listen to his problems – SHOW him everything you wanted to tell him because this quality is one of the very important things Men like in Women.

9. Funny

A sense of humor is also one of the things men like in women, especially in women they are planning to settle down with! Time to find your funny bone, ladies! Now, I wonder why is that so… are they planning to make a lot of jokes or they just want to make sure we’re able to find positive or maybe even funny sides in the future events that aren’t guaranteed to be stress free and easy? LOL! Don’t know but a sense of humor definitely gets my vote!

10. Taking Care of Herself

Could you believe this is one of the things men like in women? I mean, come on, could it be? They actually LIKE when we spend money on all those cr?mes and beauty products? Well, hold on to your chairs now, ladies, because the experts say the answer is “Yes”. Taking care of yourself shows him you’ll take good care of him as well and since they are the ones who enjoy all the benefits of our waxing, beauty treatments and shopping, they might as well admit they like it.

11. Strong

The last but not the least – one of the best things men like in women, a quality like no others, a virtue that no woman of today could live without – strength. You don’t have to lose your best damsel in distress act, in fact, you can even let him “save” you once in a while, but he has to know you’ll be there in case things start to get ugly. He has to know that there is a strong rock he can grab for under that delicate butterfly facade of yours – a woman he can count on.

You see, things men like in women are almost the same as the things women like in men. Interesting, huh? Certainly! Do you know of any other things men like in women? Feel free to ask your man, too!