Monday, October 4, 2010
9 big secrets of male arousal
1. He loves all your body
Men are visual creatures and love your naked body. Rallie McAllister, author of The Busy Couple's Guide To Great Sex, says that during the middle of intercourse, men experience a boost in mood-enhancing serotonin. Basically, this makes him happy with everything he sees. If you're hung up on your bum and prefer missionary, ask him to flip you over and do it doggy-style. If you're on top, lower your upper body towards his legs so you're revealing more of your breasts.
2. Linger on his nipples
A man's nipples are loaded with just as many nerves as a woman's. According to a recent study, more than half of all men aged 17-29 reported that stimulation in this area not only enhanced their arousal but also sparked it. Many men are reluctant to ask - so take matters into your own hands... and mouth. Begin by stroking the area with your fingertips. Then graduate to a gentle pinch, before licking, nibbling and lightly sucking each nipple.
3. The male G-spot exists
You know your G-spot is a pleasure minefield. But he has a hidden moan zone, too - it's his prostate, a chestnut-sized gland located under the bladder, at the base of his penis. This can be stimulated before intercourse. Wrap your palm around his erect penis and gently press down, as if you were trying to sink it into his pelvis, says sexologist Carol Queen. This causes the spongy tissue in his penis to rub against the prostate.
4. Use your fingers
It might not be the sexiest stretch of his body, but the skin between his balls and bum (the perineum) is one of his hottest spots. Try this during missionary-position sex: After he enters you, tease his package. When your hand is behind his testicles, apply pressure to his perineum with the flat surface of your thumb or your knuckle and move in little circles, then switch to counterclockwise, up and down. The more pressure, the more pleasure.
5. He craves carnal compliments
"In the first few minutes of intercourse, he's feeling intensely passionate, which is why he may look in utter awe of you," says Rachel. "But he's also feeling vulnerable and craves feedback." So tell him how amazing he feels inside you. Compliments are most likely to register at this stage, since his mind hasn't yet been kidnapped by his orgasm.
6. He looks at your face for affirmation
Shocker: during sex, he may be less absorbed by your body than by your face - or so says a new study by a US university. Since a woman's body doesn't readily reveal how much she's turned on, a man is forced to look at her face to gauge enjoyment levels - then change his tactics if need be. And looking directly at him has a satisfying twofold effect - the eye contact ups the intimacy factor while increasing his arousal.
7. He has an unexpected hot spot
Every man has an erotic body part that's rarely explored. And, believe it or not, it's his nose. His nasal passages, in particular, mimic the erectile tissue found in the penis. In other words, the more you nurture his nose, the more you'll increase his circulation below the belt. Yvonne K Fulbright, author of Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide To Your Orgasmic Hot Spots, suggests tracing your finger from your partner's nose down to his abdomen and package, then back to the nose.
8. His basic instincts take over
When he's moments away from the finish line, he surrenders to his basic instincts, which is why he might suddenly grab your boobs or bum, says Dr Sadie Allison, author of Ride 'Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets For Better Bucking. He'd love it if you did the same, says Sadie. Try pulling his hair, running your nails across his back or slapping his bum. His skin is thicker than yours and, during orgasm, his pain threshold increases - so don't worry too much about hurting him.
9. The longer he lasts, the deeper his climax
While he's deep in the throes of thrusting, explains Yvonne, "All his physiological symptoms - including heart rate, breathing and muscular tension - are at peak levels and he instinctively wants to come," says Yvonne. "Tthe longer he stays at this stage, the more powerful his orgasm will be." To help him, keep an eye on his crown jewels. When he's reaching the brink, you'll feel them retract into his body. Lightly tug them away from him.
Start those engines
Create some heat: "Go for a spicy meal," says Yvonne. "It can cause people to attribute the reaction to feelings of passion."
Size him up right: Focus on his eyes, his mouth, then his eyes again... and then flash a smile. This sequence will broadcast the fact that you can't wait to be alone with him.
Get his opinion: Seek his advice on something. The fact that you want and value his input will boost his ego, says Yvonne.
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