Monday, May 24, 2010

10 Signs He’ll Be Good in Bed …

You just know he’ll be good in bed… or do you? Yes, you’ve probably always told yourself that you should not judge a relationship based on the sex, but come on, who are we fooling? Sex counts! Either way we stack it, it counts. So, you’re enjoying the dating scene and you’re curious to know if he’ll be any good at the deed before you actually do it. Fret not. I have come up with this reliable list of the 10 signs that he will be good in bed. Ready? Here we go…

10. He does not brag

I have found that if a guy is good in bed, he does not brag about his past sexcapades. I mean, personally, I do not have any experience with this, because I have only been with one guy (the guy I married when I was 18), but from what I have read and heard from friends, I have heard that guys who are good in bed do not brag. However, those guys who are bad in bed have a tendency to brag (or shall we say wish?). If he has not bragged about any of his past conquests chances are he may have had his share of very bragworthy deeds in the past ;)

9. He ties his necktie in five seconds

Sure he has gorgeous manicured hands and clean nails but tell me this…Can he tie his necktie in five seconds flat? Let me tell you something, those fine motor skills are definitely a major plus! Imagine the wonderful things those fingers might be capable of..Mmm… I tell my husband that the next time he knots his tie, he needs to time himself. So if he is able to tie that tie that fast, then you may be in for a night of surprises.

8. That eye contact

Eye contact is not just an indicator that he likes you but also how good he could be in the sack. When he makes eye contact with you, how do you feel? Is it dull, shallow or very intense? When you make eye contact with a guy who is good in bed, you will have an unexplainable feeling. That eye contact will be so intense, you’ll feel yourself melting. If you do not believe me on this one, try it out some day. You’ll see exactly what I mean. And trust me darling you will definitely want to make eye contact with this one in bed!

7. His cooking is sloppy, but he cleans up nicely

To test this one, you obviously have to see him cook you a meal. When you finally succeed at making him cook (if you don’t get him in bed by then), then pay attention to how he cooks. If he cooks sloppily, don’t take it as a bad sign. Instead concentrate on how he cleans up. If he cleans up neatly, that will definitely be a sign that he is good in bed. Infact a friend and I were just discussing the same thing the other day and from her vast experience, she seems to totally believe there’s a connection between the two.

6. What’s on his bookshelf?

When you go to his home or apartment, what do you see on his bookshelf? Does he have a good amount of fiction? Substantial non-fiction? Hopefully, he does not have books such as “How to Get Laid Today!” If he has one of those “How to” books or anything similar to it, then he may not be good in bed. Remember girls, do not forget to look at his bookshelf! Somehow bookworms do seem better in bed. And “hot nerds” have always been my type ;)

5. When he talks, does he use his hands?

I have always been one to notice hands. And not just to check whether they are beautiful hands but to also notice how he uses them. When a guy is good in bed, he will have a tendency to talk with his hands. What is the connection between these two? When he is so expressive with his hands while talking, imagine how much more expressive he could get in bed. Maybe he is so used to using them that he doesn’t even notice he talks with them.

4. He holds the doors open

Men should be courteous. And stay away from men who are otherwise. Guys who are good in bed have a tendency to open doors for the girl. He will also pull the chair out for you and wait before he digs into his dinner. Basically, guys that are great in bed do not forget the concept that ladies are first. These are things that you will notice on your very first date. But beware, a lot of guys tend to be extremely well behaved on the first couple of dates and slowly deteroriate into their “real selves” as time goes by. So if you are dating someone who is consistently well mannered, you may have a catch!

3. He has a bedroom light switch dimmer

This may not be important to everyone, but most men who are good in bed have a tendency to have a bedroom light switch dimmer. Sure, if he has one of those lights that turn off when he claps, then that counts as the same thing as a dimmer. When you go into his room, make sure you take a look at the type of light he has. Bright lights are a big no no in bed as is complete darkness.

2. He pays attention to your feelings

When he speaks with you, he pays attention to every word. He shows that he cares whether you are sad, mad, upset and of course, feeling good. When you’re happy, he’s happy. When you’re sad, he looks sad. I do not know what other girls think, but this is something my friend told me she noticed about guys who are good in bed. When a guy does not care about how you feel, then he is not going to care how you feel in bed. Does this make sense?

1. The way he speaks

Some men just have it in their voice. You hear him and you know there’s no way he’s going to be bad in bed. That’s what makes hot men like George Clooney and Gerard Butler hotter. When he speaks to you, what tone of voice does he use? Does he use a sensual voice that just screams out “I am good in bed?” Or is it dull and boring? Pay attention to the way he speaks and see if the way his talks lure you into bed.

With some of these signs, you know he’ll be good in bed. If he is not good in bed the first time, that does not mean that you should dump him. I know, I said sex does count, no matter how you stack it, but there is always room for some improvement! And besides sex does get better with communication and time…Do you have some sure shot ways to know if a guy is good in bed? Please do share!